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By Sally Halstead, Dip.H.E 

What does Success mean to you?

Success can be defined as “the accomplishment of an aim” however it is subjective and its’ meaning depends upon many individual factors. My perceived success in finishing a 5km race in an hour may be regarded as a complete failure by an Olympic athlete, so don’t let someone else’s meaning of success define yours.

Bear in mind that our definition of success also shifts over time, as we reach our goals or as our lives change, so you will need to keep periodically reassessing this point.

*Define success for yourself. What does it look like? How does it feel? Is it an end result or is it a process? Is it only material, or perhaps emotional as well? 

Now you know what you are aiming for.

Where does Success Begin?

Mahatma Gandhi once beautifully summed up the process of manifesting our life as follows:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,

Your thoughts become your words,

Your words become your actions,

Your actions become your habits,

Your habits become your values,

Your values become your destiny.”

A successful manifestation cycle begins with our inherent belief system, the imperceptible force that creates our behaviour. Most of our core beliefs are formed in childhood, either indirectly, by accepting what others tell us to be true (mainly our parents), or directly through our own experiences.

According to cognitive neuroscientists our thoughts and actions are based on the 95% of brain activity that is non-conscious. For the vast majority of time we are thinking and behaving on autopilot, based on ingrained patterns that are now outdated. Many of them were helpful at the time we formed them, but now no longer serve us in reaching our goals.

So if we want to be successful we can increase our chances by changing our self-limiting beliefs. 

*Identify some of your core beliefs that are blocking your own success. Listen to yourself when you make automatic statements such as “money doesn’t grow on trees”.

A Growth Mindset

Stanford University psychology researcher Carol Dweck proposes there are two types of mindsets named “fixed” and “growth”. 

People with a fixed mindset inherently believe that their qualities are fixed traits and therefore cannot change. They believe that talent automatically leads to success without effort.

Growth mindset people however understand that their intelligence can grow with life experience and they can develop their talents over time. They know that their personal effort has a direct effect on success and they put in extra time that leads to higher achievements and more success.

*Do you have a fixed or growth mindset? Do you want to cultivate more of a growth mindset?

Cultivating a Growth Mindset 

*View both challenges and failure as learning opportunities and learn from the mistakes of others as well as your own. Receive criticism positively.

*Understand the word “neuroplasticity”. Your brain is constantly creating new connections whenever you have an experience that means it is always physically changing. Focus on your goals and working towards them and your brain will adapt to help you.

*Accept personal responsibility for your mindset, you are the only one in control of creating it, and identify with being a person who has an attitude of growth. 

And Finally…

*Be open to how the process can be as rewarding as the end result, by teaching us lessons to help us grow.

Wishing you every Success!

Sally Halstead is a qualified nurse from the UK with a Diploma in Health Education. She is the former Wellness Manager of the multiple award-winning luxury five star wellness retreat COMO Shambhala Estate in Bali. Connect with her on LinkedIn if you need expert wellness content creation, be it blogs, posts, social media captions or articles for links in your bio or your website.



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Thursday, 22 October 2020